Why should you start a self-love campaign?
Yesterday was St. Valentine’s day, a day in which many of us celebrated our romantic partners, our friends, our family, our pets, and all the people we love.
But what about you? Did you celebrate yourself? Or did you just went out of the way to make everyone else feel important and forgot about you? Where you disappointed because you probably didn’t get what you thought you deserved from the one you love?
Maybe you did have a fantastic St. Valentine’s day, if that was the case, congratulations! But let’s not forget about the most important love here on earth, and that’s our self-love. Loving, respecting, honoring ourselves.
How good are we at it? Some people can claim that they are very good at it, but in fact, the majority of women are not. Why? Because we have been conditioned to be the caregivers, the caretakers, the super woman, the “we have to be there for everybody” kind of woman…
But it shouldn’t be that way.
The path that leads toward success in life, and I’m talking all types of success, not only weight loss success is to become self-compassionate.
What do self-love and self-compassion have to do with losing weight?
There have been studies that show that those who practice self-compassion eat less than those that are into self-loathing.
Think about this for a second. It has been said over and over that one of the reasons why women become fat or overweight is because they don’t want to be noticed, they want to hide. They use their excess weight as a protection mechanism to hide from whatever it is that their subconscious mind is telling them to hide from.
Learning to love and be grateful for your body will help you gradually shift your mind to practice self-loving and kindness toward yourself. When you start practicing this your inner drive will guide you to start looking after yourself because your sense of worthiness will increase.
So how do you start a self-love campaign?
By practicing compassion toward yourself. Start loving your body for what it does, not for how it looks. Practice positive self-talk. Eliminate the negative self-talk.
Some of you might wonder that if you love your body the way it is right now it would prevent you from losing weight. That you might stay complacent as you are and stop trying to lose weight.
Loving yourself for who you are and how you look right now will help you make the change faster.
You will come from a place of self-love, from a place of worthiness, from a place of self-compassion, rather than from a place of self-hate and punishment.
If you have been struggling with your weight, feeling like you are not good enough and wishing you could just disappear from the face of the earth, you have to make the change.
Listen to me, it is possible, I did it. Stop looking at it like an impossible task, start taking baby steps, one little step at a time. Don’t attempt to change everything at once. It doesn’t work that way. Start practicing self-love, self-compassion. Release the emotional baggage as much as you can, the weight loss will follow.
Love your body and love yourself so much that you will have no other choice than to make the right choice for you and your body.
That’s how it happens, that’s how it happened for me.
It doesn’t matter how many times you have fallen off the wagon as long as you get back on it. Use self-love and self-respect as the inspiration for your change, not self-loathing and guilt.
Just like when you exercise your muscles will get stronger, as you continue this path of honoring and loving your body, you will get stronger and wiser each time you try.
When you feel like giving up or eating unhealthy, as yourself, “why do I feel I’m not worthy?, Why aren’t I loving myself enough?”
You don’t need your fat suit to protect you, and you don’t need food to make you happy. Let your fat suit fall off! Start a self-love campaign! 🙂
Dr. Mayra Alfonso
Dr. Mayra Alfonso
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